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One of the many roles I have in my practice is coaching other coaches. I serve a role as their first practice client. I play a role where I go in and out of character...meaning that I ask them questions to which I already know the answer...but which I also know a first time client will typically ask. I also give them as much of myself as I can as a real client. When they work on beliefs with me, I give them a real belief to work on. I do this for two reasons. First I want them to be able to feel… Continue

A question that I get quite often from clients is “what is karma?” My karma is what is being reflected back to me as my reality. My karma is typically made up of the collective energies I carry with me in this world and what I see as my reality is much like a holographic image. The image I see and experience is a composite of all of the energies I carry...both positive and negative. These collective energies are stored in what some theologies have termed the emotional body...which also contains… Continue

So one of the first steps in admitting that I had unmet Emotional Dependency Needs was for me to actually realize that it wasn’t my fault that these needs weren’t met and that my mind had created ego defenses. My mind created ego defenses in an attempt to keep my safe, sane and secure in a world where as a child, very little of what was going on around me or that which I was experiencing helped me to feel safe, sane or secure. But in order to ever be able to deal with what I felt about what ha… Continue

Why is knowing about Emotional Dependency Needs important and how does it impact me if I have unmet EDN’s? To answer that, let’s look at our childhoods for a moment. It is important to acknowledge that none of us had perfect parents. Some of us even experienced abuse as a child. For those of us who did, it is somewhat easier to validate that perhaps we were never able to develop a feeling of being safe in the world if we were hit, yelled at, sexually abused or abandoned on a regular basis. And… Continue

I first started learning about how to communicate differently to the opposite sex in John Gray’s “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.” Just reading some of that information helped me to become more aware when I was putting on my “Mr. Fix-it Hat” or when I woman had unconsciously decided that I was her “Home Improvement project.” Knowing that information helped me to start becoming a better listener. When I studied Spiritual Relationships in more detail in “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Y… Continue